“I have a crush,” a friend would never tire telling this to me. To him, this was sort of an unreal fantasy he often experienced whenever he met a woman he thought would pass for the most attractive being at first sight.
A crush is a condition in which a person develops deep attachment, attraction or likeness for the other person, especially of the opposite sex. There are rare cases in which a person may develop a crush for an object or an inanimate being, but, all the same, it is still a crush. This is synonymous to liking someone more than you would averagely like them.
The condition could also be reflected in a teen girl developing a crush for a famous actor or boxer, or a male student developing a crush for their female teacher. The person having the crush will be engrossed in the person they have a crush on for days on end.
Is it normal to have a crush?
This is an absolutely normal condition for any sound-minded person. Whether you are in your seventies or in your childhood, you are most likely to experience a crush, not once, but several times. In other cases, you can develop multiple crushes that could easily crush your psyche, but this depends on how well you handle this condition.
How do you know it is a crush?
- You can’t stop thinking about them. If you do, you lose your mind. You almost go wild with the feelings that you are not yourself.
- At times, you act very weird as if you have lost your common senses. You only feel okay when the person you have a crush on shows up.
- You also try as much possible to see the person with whom you have a crush. The moment you see or meet them, you do not want to leave them alone. Their presence restores your sanity.
- If it is a waitress at a restaurant that you have a crush on, you will always frequent that restaurant until you see her. Often, you end up spending more time at restaurant than is necessary just to see her.
- Also, when you are with the person you have a crush on, you feel extremely cautious with the way you walk, dress, talk or even behave. You take necessary precautions with the hope that you won’t disappoint your ‘crush’. You also try to be your best in order to impress your ‘crush’.
- You also appear to like the things you used to hate, just because your ‘crush’ likes them, i.e. you may begin liking horror movies simply because the person you have a crush on prefers to watch horror movies.
- You also don’t seem to find any faults, however conspicuous they are, on the person you have a crush on. What you tend to see is the good side only.
Handling a crush
While some crushes can present the best opportunity for you to bond with your crush, they can at times be detrimental to your psyche. You may decide to stop thinking about your crush, and try to suppress the feeling of desiring to see them.
You may also preoccupy yourself with other assignments or engagements. This could help you think less of your ‘crush’.
Also, you need to seek the help of a counsellor, if you find yourself unable to disengage your thinking from your ‘crush’.
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